This is my whatever container. I reblog a lot of stuff, don’t post as much as I’d like, and absolutely suck at tagging.
I recently made @inbacchaegloriam, head there for rants, opinions, poetry and witchery.
Stuff you might see here:
Activism stuff: anything from info about unions and how to get organized, to extremely inclusive and collective queer opinions.
Textiles! Textilestextilestextiles.
Neurodivergent takes.
Some fandom.
Some tiktoks, whenever I get into a spiral of reblogging tiktoks.
Shit I find funny.
Stuff about me I’m willing to share with you goblins:
I’m over 30 and would rather you didn’t follow if you’re a minor.
Tumblr is basically my only social media.
I’m kinkier than you’d expect.
I avoid drama like the plague and have a block list miles long. You don’t even have to be a jerk for me to block you, so like, don’t take it personally? I guess?
On the subject of taking things personally, while I do love all mutuals and my little pen pals and everyone I interact with here gets tremendous amounts of love from me, this is still not real life. Pls be careful with the parasocial relationships.
English is not my native language and I don’t always have the best reading comprehension skills. If I say something stupid, please let me know, I’ll do my best to be less stupid.
I’m also currently going through a lot, doesn’t matter when you read this.
@2-kakimiko-1 submitted: I’d like ids for these lovelies i found in the upper peninsula of Michigan :0
Suuure the first is a longhorn beetle in the genus Monochamus. I think probably a white-spotted sawyer beetle. The first moth looks like a grape leaffolder. And the last is a geometer moth but I don’t recognize the species offhand.
YouTube with downloads (you can even download the audio by itself!)
YouTube with subscriptions and playlists without logging in
completely free.
this is not sponsored newpipe just absolutely fucks
newpipe also has a grade A privacy rating on tosdr.org, in contrast to youtube’s grade C
It works with Soundcloud and Bandcamp too holy shit
unfortunately this does in fact have ads, i had a popup ad within one minute of using it, just FYI
I have never gotten ads in years of using newpipe. where did you download from?
@comrad3olive if you did not download from somewhere within the link I posted you should uninstall ASAP. newpipe does not have ads or pop-ups. you may have downloaded a version that has been repacked with nasty stuff. be sure to only download from official project sources. there are many people who re-release software with nasty things in it, which is why I posted the official project link.
[…] Something that worries me about social justice communities is that we tend to conceptualize “revolution” as a product, as a place and time that we expend all of our energy and anger to create – often without regard to the toll this takes on individuals and our relationships. […]
In our – often justified – anger and disappointment at the failure of ourselves and our communities to uphold the dream of revolution, we lash out. […]
What if revolution isn’t a product, some distant promised land, but the relationships that we have right now?
What if revolution is, in addition to – not instead of – direct action and community organizing, the process of rupture and repair that happens when we fuck up and hold each other accountable and forgive?
2. The Oppressor Lives Within
[…] I’ve started to believe that I can’t engage in authentic activism, I can’t create positive change without recognizing and naming my own participation in the oppressive systems that I’m trying to undo.
Coming from this position, I’m forced to have compassion for the people around me who I see also participating in oppression, even as I’m also angry at them. With compassion comes understanding, and with understanding comes belief in the possibility of change.
When we become capable of holding that contradiction in our hearts – when we can be angry and compassionate at the same time, at ourselves as well as others – entirely new possibilities for healing and transformation emerge.
3. Accountability Starts in the Heart
[…] I often wonder how different things would look if it were more of a cultural norm to understand accountability as a practice that comes from within the individual, instead of a consequence that must be forced onto someone externally.
What if we taught each other to honor the responsibility that comes with holding ourselves accountable, rather than seeing self-accountability as a shameful admission of guilt? What if we could have real conversations with each other about harm, in good faith?
In a culture of indispensability, I cannot ignore someone when they tell me I have harmed them – they are precious to me, and I have to try to understand and respond accordingly. […]
4. Perpetrator/Survivor is a False Dichotomy
There is an intense moral dynamic in social justice culture that tends to separate people into binaries of “right” and “wrong.” […]
“Perpetrators” are considered evil and unforgivable, while “survivors” are good and pure, yet denied agency to define themselves.
Among the many problems of this dynamic is the fact that it obscures the complex reality that many people are both survivors and perpetrators of violence (though violence, of course, exists within a wide spectrum of behaviors).
Within a culture of disposability – whether it be the criminal justice system of the state or community practices of exiling people – the perpetrator/survivor dichotomy is useful because it appears to make things easier. It helps us make decisions about who to punish and who to pity.
5. Punishment Isn’t Justice
[…] It isn’t inherently wrong to want someone who hurt you to feel the same pain – to want retribution, or even revenge. But as Schulman also writes, punishment is rarely, if ever, actually an instrument of justice – it is most often an expression of power over those with less.
How often do we see the vastly wealthy or politically powerful punished for the enormous harms they do to marginalized communities? How often are marginalized individuals put in prison or killed for minor (or non-existent) offenses?
As long as our conception of justice is based on the violent use of power, the powerful will remain unaccountable, while the powerless are scapegoated.
6. Nuance Isn’t an Excuse for Harm
[…] [I]ndispensability means that everyone – especially those have experienced harm – are precious and require justice. In other words, we cannot allow the fact that something is complicated or scary prevent us from trying to stop it.
Trapped in the perpetrator/survivor dichotomy of understanding harm, it might seem like we have only two options: to ignore harm or to punish perpetrators.
But in fact, there are often other strategies available.
They involve taking anyone’s – everyone’s – expressions of pain seriously enough to ask hard questions and have tough conversations. They involve dedicating time and resources to ensuring that anyone who has been harmed has the support they need to heal.
7. Healing Is Both Rage and Forgiveness
If the revolution is a relationship, then the revolution must include room for both rage and forgiveness: We have to be able to tolerate the inevitability that we will be angry at one another, will commit harm against one another.
When we are harmed, we must be allowed the space to rage. We need to be able to express the depth of our hurt, our hatred of those who hurt us and those who allowed it to happen – especially when those people are the ones we love.
It is up to the community to hold and contain this rage – to hear and validate and give it space, while also preventing it from creating further harm. […]
8. Community Is the Answer
[…] Perhaps the reason we tend to recreate disposability culture and trauma responses over and over is because we are all, secretly, that frightened runaway kid, constantly searching for a home, but not really believing we can find one.
Maybe we don’t create communities of true interdependence – of indispensability, of forever-family – because we are terrified of what will happen if we try.
But I believe, have to believe, that true community is possible for me and for all of us. The truth is, we can’t keep going on the way we have been. We need each other, need to find each other, in order to survive.
